The Difference Between Winners and Losers

The difference between winners and losers is… losers triumph over others and winners triumph over themselves.



Change to Promise

You don’t promise to change, you change to promise.

-Nick Smith

 

Many people have it backwards. They go around telling those they are in relationships with that they promise things will be different. They promise the world and then do nothing. The wake of hurt feelings is enormous.

A promise is not meant to come before the change because in most cases, we do not complete it.

When we change our lives first, we can keep a promise when we make one.

When we take it upon us to change first and promise second, our commitment to the promise is stronger, the faith of others in our promise increases and we authentically become what we say we will become.

My challenge to you and to my clients is to change and then promise.

Choose Up!



Are you one of the five?
July 16, 2009, 11:14 pm
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Five

5 Individuals or Businesses will experience transformation as they never have before..

Are you stuck?

Do you feel frustrated in your efforts to shift your life or your company? Does it seem like you will never reach your goals?

Are you doing the same things over and over again, expecting different results?

Are you wondering what is wrong with you?

I am taking on 5 clients for 3 months each and my only focus is to assist them in obtaining the change they seek either in their personal lives or in their businesses. My only focus is for them to reach their goals. As a professional coach, I will work with these clients to get what it is they want most in their life.

Are you one of the five?

As my gift to you, I would like to have a no charge, no obligation conversation with you for 30 minutes. Let’s talk about what you are creating and what challenges you are facing. Let’s find out if YOU are one of the five!

Send me an email at Nick@ntsmodevations.com and I’ll let you know the best way to get in touch with me by phone.

This is a limited offer and I will be withdrawing this opportunity on July 30th, 2009. So act quickly! You don’t want to miss out.



Change

“When something becomes more important to you then what you are doing you will change.”

 -Raymond D Smith SR.

This is a great quote from my Father, who passed away in 1977 when I was just two years old. He sounds like an inspired and insightful man.



The Certainty Cycle

The Certainty Cycle

I was recently asked by a business owner whether they would get a job they were bidding. The owner said to me, “Let’s test something! Are we getting that job?” I said promptly, “I don’t know!” The owner told me that if we talked from a space other than certainty, we are not likely to get the job.

I pondered that. Where do certainty and the infamous “I don’t knows” come from?

First, let me define what certainty is. Etymologically, Certainty means to be sure or fixed. It is the high probability that a certain event will occur exactly as it has previously. Certainty is something you can count on.

So, how does this all begin?

Somehow, somewhere and in some way, a light kicks on in our minds. We have a thought, insight, inspiration or idea, we receive information, learn something new or are challenged to do a certain thing and this certain something drives us to take an action. We have the opportunity to act or not to act.

For example purposes, let’s say we have no experience with this thing. There is no history that would tell us whether what we are anticipating works or not. We are in the space of “I Don’t Know”. We speculate that what we are thinking could or could not work, but we have not tested it to certainty.

In order to find out whether our idea will work, we must test it.

When we step into the unknown, it is generally with a step of faith. We reach out in anticipation that what we are doing will work. In the opposite of this, doubt causes us to not step into the unknown because we allow the speculation and the great “I Don’t Know” to overpower us.

It is through faith, courage, trust or whatever you might call it, that we move forward into things we have never experienced.

Imagine as we test out concept that we have our first experience and it goes poorly. We have now gained what I call a sense of certainty. We feel based on one experience that a thing will continue to go as it did in our first encounter. A person says ‘No’, we get in an accident; we lose some money or any other possibility. However, we don’t yet know the actuality of the situation. There is not yet enough repetition or history to show with certainty, that the item is what we are experiencing.

Imagine flipping a coin and it lands on heads. A sense of certainty would tell us that the item will land on heads every time with future attempts. Certainty on the other hand tells us that the probability of a coin landing on heads or tails is nearly equal.

What tends to happen is people feel and live as though this one-time event, this sense of certainty, is actual certainty.  It is not, because there is not enough evidence, history or repetition, to give us an accurate reflection of its nature.

Certainty comes about through the repetition of a certain thing, close to or exactly as it was previously. For example, the sun coming up in the morning, our heart beating day by day, the four seasons and anything else we experience with very little or no change on a consistent basis.

It is at this point that we step out of faith, sense of certainty, speculation and the “I Don’t Know”. It is here that we gain knowledge. This is the point at which we can say, with certainty, “I Know!”

Knowledge can be interpreted as learning and not just learning, but the truth of things. Truth is at the center of it all. It is by this truth that we know right from wrong, good from bad, and all of the other infinite opposites that exist in our universe.

However, just because we know something, does not automatically mean that we know how to use it. As we learn to use the knowledge we have gained, we earn wisdom. When we can determine what is true and use it appropriately, we become wise. We can determine the truth of things and use it in a way that benefits others.

One of the great ways to share wisdom is to teach others about your experiences with the knowledge you have gained. As you teach others, they gain a thought, insight, inspiration or idea; receive information, learn something new or are challenged to do a certain thing; and the certainty cycle repeats, allowing them to find the truth of things for themselves.

The Certainty Cycle gives us all the opportunity to push through faith and speculation into knowledge and wisdom. As each of us shares our experience, others have the opportunity to see the world as we see it.

Choose Up!



What Are You Really Capable Of?

Home Depot’s CEO Bob Nardelli said, “I believe that without a coach, people will never reach their maximum capabilities”.

 

“The goal of coaching is the goal of good management:  to make the most of an organization’s valuable resources.”  — HARVARD BUSINESS REVIEW

 

 The Manchester survey of 140 companies shows nine in 10 executives believe coaching to be worth their time and dollars.  The average return was more than $5 for each $1 spent.  — The Denver Post

 

 ”Coaches are not for the meek.  They’re for people who value unambiguous feedback.  All coaches have one thing in common, it’s that they are ruthlessly results-oriented.”  –FAST COMPANY Magazine.

 

 ”Between 25 percent and 40 percent of Fortune 500 companies use executive coaches.” –Recent survey by The Hay Group, International

 

Asked for a conservative estimate of the the monetary payoff from the coaching they got, these managers described an average return of more than $100,000, or about six times what the coaching had cost their companies.  –FORTUNE MAGAZINE, 2/19/01

 

 “If you are playing to win, you will have a coach because the coach

is there to help you win. This is one of the problems we have in our

culture. It’s a beautiful thing, but it’s also a challenge. The beautiful

thing is we’re self-motivated, can-do, we say, “Yes, I can do it and I

can do it myself.” But the way the world is today, you can’t do it alone.

You have a big vision, you have a desire to do something with your life

that is very meaningful and you can’t do it alone.”

Dave Buck   CEO, CoachVille

 

“Formal education will make you a living.  Self-education will make you a fortune.”           — Jim Rohn

 

 ”What’s really driving the boom in coaching, is this: as we move from

30 miles an hour to 70 to 120 to 180… as we go from driving straight

down the road to making right turns and left turns to abandoning

cars and getting motorcycles… the whole game changes, and a lot of

people are trying to keep up, learn how not to fall.”

John Kotter,   Professor of Leadership – Harvard Business School

 

 “You never suffer from a money problem, you always suffer from an idea problem.”             — Robert H. Schuller

 

 ”Learning is not compulsory… neither is survival.”

Dr. W. Edwards Deming

 

 ”Our chief want in life is to find someone who will make us do what we can.”      — Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 “Once used to bolster troubled staffers, coaching now is part of the standard leadership development training for elite executives and talented up-and-comers at IBM, Motorola, J.P. Morgan Chase, and Hewlett Packard. These companies are discreetly giving their best prospects what star athletes have long had: a trusted adviser to help reach their goals.”     

   — CNN.com

 

 “Part therapist, part consultant, part motivational expert, part professional

organizer, part friend, part nag – the personal coach seeks to do for your life what a personal trainer does for your body.”

   – Minneapolis-St. Paul Star-Tribune

 

 ”I never cease to be amazed at the power of the coaching process to draw out the skills or talent that was previously hidden within an individual, and which invariably finds a way to solve a problem previously thought unsolvable.”

   – John Russell, Managing Director, Harley-Davidson Europe Ltd.

 

 The object of the coaching process is to allow the leader to discover his or her hidden strengths and bring them to the forefront in the daily life of the business.  

- Steve Chandler

 

 “The trick is to not ignore or deny the existence of the voice. Because it’s there, in all of us. It’s in Michael Jordan. It’s in everyone. No one is free of the voice. However, you don’t have to obey the voice. You can talk back to the voice. And when you really get good, you can even talk trash to the voice. Make fun of it. Ridicule it. Point out how stupid it is. And once you get into that way of debating your own doubts, you start to take back control of your life.”  - Steve Hardison

 

 “If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally

astonish ourselves.”         -Thomas A. Edison

 

 ”Got a nagging feeling that your life could be more fulfilling? Want to change direction but aren’t sure how to do it? Here’s how to jump start your new life today… Hire a personal coach.” — Modern Maturity Magazine



The Path of Courage

Men of fear wait for fate to decide their outcome.

Men of courage dictate to fate what their outcome will be.

A fearful person wants to be rescued and in some cases is, but quickly returns to helplessness.

A courageous person sets out to rescue themselves and their courage enrolls others, wherein miracles occur.